“Nothing is unsolvable. Nothing. Do everything that you can to avoid the temptation of thinking that what is facing your now is insurmountable. That is simply not true.

You cannot see the solution, of course, if you are convinced it is not there. So you must have great faith in life.”
Neale Donald Walsch, Author and Spiritual Teacher

This is what I read this morning in Neale’s daily blog.

This is my challenge in life and if it is my challenge in life, it must also be my challenge in love.

While Glenn is not going to die, he has a long road to walk to health. I will be beside him in this. This is what we do as a couple.

Of course I am indescribably grateful. This blog is not about gratitude. (If you’re interested in my thoughts about gratitude, please read my recent post HERE) It is about faith. It is about trust.

Glenn had great faith that his diagnosis was incorrect. He is the sage. I had an itty bitty bit of faith. I look at facts, what is so-called real.

I had great faith in him and great faith in our relationship but little faith in my ability to deal with what was to come. I did not see a hopeful path because I was convinced one wasn’t there.

I have trouble sometimes with believing things happen for a reason. Easy to say in North America and only if you’re not facing some kind of deep trauma. I do believe that as a collective we may be responsible for the consciousness of the world which has impact at the individual level. Tell that to someone who is suffering. Oh, things happen for a reason. It’s an energy thing or we contracted this at the soul level.

This also is a place of faith and trust, faith in our ability to deal with what is, no matter what is, through love of other and love of self and belief in what we create together.

It takes a community to heal a man and we know the community is there.

So, if Glenn’s illness has happened for a reason for me it is to be more willing to have faith, to trust the process of life, to trust in myself and others, and know that love is the thread that weaves through it all.

It is in love I believe that we find faith lives.

Where might you need to have more faith in love – of yourself, of your partner, of others, of the possibility of a solution to what is burdening you?

Love and light,

Sharon and Glenn
The Sage and the Straight Shooter

I’m not sure how she had been feeling before this moment because the minute I approached her face showed the delight we feel when we are together. I embrace her to welcome her home and there we stood, in the middle of the driveway, in total bliss.

The next morning when we awoke I shared with her what she mean to me. I told her that she is my joy, not because of what she may do, but because of who she is. She is love and that is what makes me happy. Even with the health challenges I now face, her love fills me every day.

If you want to learn the way love truly is meant to be then follow us in The Smart Love System. It is our intention to show the world what love is and how you need to be open to receive it.

Be love,

Sharon and Glenn
The Sage and The Straight Shooter

In last week’s post, Glenn spoke wrote about loving the unlovable. His message sprang from the current state of his health which has brought me, though not him, to my knees.

In my tears, I am realizing that I am being called to become an even more loving human being – of Glenn and of myself.

How can this experience reveal a path that leads even deeper into ourselves and are relationship?

How can I use the path we are now walking together to deepen and benefit not only this relationship but how I touch the world outside of the one we know and live together?

The stakes are high.

As Brene Brown says in her new book Daring Greatly, “vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement.

Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience. We must walk into the arena…; we must dare to show up and let ourselves be seen. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.”

I know Glenn is up to the task. He is the Sage.

I am the Straight Shooter, who cuts to the core of the matter, recognizes and deals with the essential elements of a problem or situation. Yet what is doable when nothing can be done to change the inevitable course of an illness? How will I engage with his sickness, with him, and all that I will be called upon to do?

David Richo in his book How to be An Adult In Relationships: The 5 Keys to Mindful Loving speaks of bestowing on others what should be the gifts of childhood: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing. The first four I know I can crack.

Allowing…yes, allowing. To allow Glenn to be who he is and needs to be as his body fails him, is a task in this moment I am not up to.

I need to allow vs. direct, control, steer, lead and all those other verbs that come so quickly to my vocabulary.

This is my place to dare greatly – in my vulnerability and in my relationship with my beloved.

Where might you dare greatly in relationship? What might be possible if you did?

Love and light,

Sharon and Glenn

I am called to write about this subject because of what I am personally dealing with right now. I have a health condition that is forcing me to let go of the physical person I knew and loved.

It seems to be the human condition to more easily love what is positive, fun, rewarding, beautiful and any other beneficial thing you can think of.

But is life not filled with just about as many bad things as good? Some seem to think that there are far more negative things happening than positive. So, if love is just for the positive then most of the time you will be without love.

We live in a world of duality and there will always be light and dark in our lives. We actually have a dark side that we want to hide, especially from our loved ones.

We must learn to love the unloved to be open to unconditional love. Learn to love what is against your ego’s interpretation of what is lovable, starting with yourself.

Love and light,

Sharon and Glenn

We are the Sage and the Straight Shooter. We are on a mission to bring Smart Love to the world.

Dumb Love

• Lacking intelligence or good judgment; stupid
• Lacking the power of speech; temporarily unable to speak; refraining from any or much speech; silent

No doubt you’ve all had experience with dumb love. Everyone has examples, sometimes many, of where we lacked in intelligence or good judgment in our relationships.

How could we not? We’re not trained to be smart in our human connections. Our role models are often woefully unskilled. The ‘sins of the fathers’ carry on generation after generation. The circumstances change. The players change. The results are often painfully similar.

One of the dumbest things we can do is think that we will somehow spontaneously be totally equipped for creating great relationships. Yah, right.

It takes skill. It takes learning. It takes practice. It takes great teachers. Why would we invest in higher education and not include higher love in the mix? At the end of the day, that’s what we’re all looking for – at home, at work, in community, and with ourselves.

Dumb also means being silent. How often are we silent about what we truly feel and truly want, instead stuffing our feelings for fear of being rejected, even though the way things are, at their worst, may be sucking the life out of us?

Smart Love

• Characterized by sharp quick thought; bright
• Energetic or quick in movement
• Canny and shrewd in dealings with others
• To cause a sharp, usually superficial, stinging pain (does not apply in this case)

We are on a crusade to bring Smart Love to relationships. We want to help people be bright, quick reacting, shrewd and steady in their connections. We want people to speak up and intelligently ask for, co-create and take a stand for what they truly desire.

Love

• Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
• A beloved person
• Attraction based on sexual desire
• The object of attachment, devotion, or admiration
• A score of zero in tennis (does not apply in this case)

At the end of the day, this is what we want.
Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse working in palliative care, recorded people’s regrets as they were dying and has shared the top five.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Underneath all of these is love – love of self, love of other and love of life.

Time for Smart Love.

Coaches’ Challenge

1. How are you smart and how are you dumb in love? Make a chart, one side for Smart and the other side for Dumb.
2. Record at least 10 things under each column. What was the easiest column to fill out?
3. Write down 5 ways in which you feel you need to be smarter in love.
4. So what? Now what?

With Love,

Glenn & Sharon
The Sage and The Straight Shooter

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In my own case I can tell you that the first step you need to do to find a love is to become very familiar with who you really are. Not what you were told you were by your parents or caregivers. Not who you have become because of you hard world knocks.

Love is something we as humans cannot live without. I respect that you want to know how to find a love and I am happy to tell you that I know how to do it. You see I have attracted my soul mate to me and we know live very happily together.

As I say the first step is to know yourself, your true self without judgment or criticism. There are many tools you can use to find out who you are. I have done most of them so I can help guide you in this process.

There are more steps after the first step of knowing yourself, 9 steps in all. You can get instant access to the video I created showing you the 9 steps of what I call the “Smart Love System”. Just go to the HOME page to watch the intro video or sign up in the box to the right.

I am sure you have heard of the “Law of Attraction”. This law also works in finding someone to love but you must know how to work it accurately in order for it to be successful for you. Many people have tried to use this law and failed because they were not using it the right way.

I teach you how to find a love by using the law of attraction the correct way to use it. This is Step 7 of the Smart Love System. The other steps are all necessary to learn to attract your ideal mate to you. I know it works because I did it myself. I am so confident in my system that I guarantee you will find love.

You need to be loved, you deserve to be loved. I can show you how to find a love.